I adore yoga and the natural, calm lifestyle it promotes. That’s why I was super excited when I found out dōTERRA, my favorite essential oils brand, released a yoga trio October, 2017. The 3 blends are called “Anchor”, “Align”, and “Arise” respectively. The goal of this blend set is to steady you, center you, and to enlighten you. Click here for my dōTERRA Wellness Advocate profile!
~The Jaedyn Flow~
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Arms up and over your head to your sides
Forward fold modified
(None of these pictures are mine)
I don’t know if you all have heard of the phenomenon of the “Growth Mindset” by Carol Dweck, but it’s basically a how-to in changing your words and mentality to become more successful in life. I plan to use this “Growth Mindset” approach in my tutoring and self-criticism.
Before you decide this is a crunchy-hippie-doesn’t-actually-work-thing, check out the actual research done in order to prove it works:
- Here’s one of the academic journals: A social-cognitive approach to motivation and personality.
- A recently published book by her on the topic: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success )
The opposite of the growth mindset is the fixed mindset which believes you are born with a certain amount of smartness. People with the fixed mindset are less likely to take challenges and runs away in the face of effort. Here’s a comparison chart:
I’m going to cut to the chase with my own ideas of how to implement this genius technique into your lives:
When you are Self-Criticizing (especially in school work):
- Do not think that just because you are struggling in classes and have to work harder than others that makes you generally stupid or less intelligent than anybody else.
- Believe you can succeed! Do not just give up.
- Failure is okay- just make sure you stand up after you fall.
- It is totally okay to get help, and that does not make you less intelligent. If anything, it makes you more intelligent than sitting around not understanding something.
Fun thing to do: Make a reminder poster with how to change your thoughts!
When you are Tutoring or Teaching:
- Rephrase what you want to say, for example, instead of saying “You made a mistake” try saying “You haven’t grasped this concept yet. Let me explain this another way.” Because this lets the student know that they aren’t a failure- they made a mistake, but it’s not as final as they believe it to be- they just don’t understand YET, rather than not at all.
Some more examples are:
- Instead of, “You are so smart!” say, “You are working very hard- I can tell!” It inspires the student to keep doing well instead of excepting that they have reached their goal and can stop now.
- Instead of saying, “You always get good grades; that makes me happy.” Say, “When you put forth effort, your grades show it! You should be proud of yourself for working hard. I am proud of you!” The first phrase makes the student think that it’s just the grade itself that makes you happy, while the second phrase makes the student think that you appreciate their hard work and that’s what makes you happy, inspiring them to keep working hard.
- Instead of telling a student, “Yes, you got the answer correct, you are just so smart.” Say, “Wow, it looks like you have been studying! Good job!” This lets them know that they study for a reason, and they will be rewarded for it.
As a reminder to everyone, make a bulletin in your work-space or classroom! The chart below has some good examples to use.
Also, when you hear your students talking negatively about themselves, help them turn their mindset around!:
- Compliment their hard work, not their intelligence. (“Wow, this poster looks great! I bet you worked super hard on it!”) So that if somebody doesn’t like it, they do not correlate that with them being stupid.
- Don not name call, degrade, or attack the person because you do not like them or because you are mad at them.
- Instead of saying, “You made a mistake right here,” Try saying, “Hey, I think you overlooked this area- it is supposed to be __ in stead of ___.” This lets the person know that you are not trying to insult them, but rather show them the right way.
You can use the same basis of the tutoring or teaching style section, since they have the same goal.
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First off , I’m not going to go on some monotonous rant about positivity that you’ve read/heard 8,000,000 times. I know how difficult it is to stay positive when you feel completely, utterly, indescribably horrible. I personally struggle with depression and a roller-coaster of a life so trust me- I understand, and these are some things I do to keep myself semi-sane.
- I’m the kind of person that needs support. It doesn’t matter if it’s from one person or 80- I need somebody that I feel like I can talk to about whatever is going on. I usually lean on my super awesome and very supportive boyfriend of 3 years. He listens to me and will offer advice if I ask for it. If you are looking for somebody to talk to; parents, siblings, grandparents, significant other, teacher, adviser, friend… Anyone you deem worthy. I just suggest not keeping everything bottled up and then exploding.
- I pour myself into my work. Whether it be homework, blogging, planning my day, cooking, running errands- whatever. I pour my mind and body into what I’m doing. It helps me stay distracted while providing me with my need to feel productive.
- Depending on how bad I feel, sometimes I need to do something completely unproductive to clear my mind. Today for instance, I received very bad news. So, I played the heck out of Star Wars Battlefront and watched a ton of 90210 episodes. I focused on Naomi’s event planning and blowing up imperials with homing missiles instead of the news I received.
- I actually acknowledge my feelings. It’s okay to cry, and if that’s how you express your sadness- cry. Know that you’re sad and why and just accept that you’re a human being that has emotions.
- I try to maintain my yoga/fitness schedule. When you’re stressed out and sad is when you need it the most. Focus on your breathing instead of your problems, and don’t let your body go to $#!& because you’re sad.
- I take time away from everybody else. It’s hard for me to be around people when I’m hurting, so I stay away. I’ll go play a game or write; that’s what I’m doing right now. If you can stand it, take one of those pamper yourself baths. (With Jaedyn’s Natural Cosmetics- as soon as it launches!)
- I try to find someone that is going through the same thing, or better yet, someone who did and got through it. I’ve been wanting to talk to these two guys I know that are going/went through some of what I’m going through now. I feel like they can offer advice that will help me to stop free falling with my emotions.
- I avoid things that will trigger negative emotions. I try to steer clear of anything that will make me feel worse.
- I maintain my healthy diet because it sucks to feel mentally ran over and physically ran over.
- I do things that I know will make me happy. I’ll buy myself something small, or go eat some ice-cream loaded with hot fudge.
What do you do when times are tough?
- Switch soda, coffee, or anything else for water When I crave coffee or soda, I pour a tall glass of water and drink every last drop. It quenches my thirst while hydrating me and not staining my teeth.
- Add lemon to your water Lemon is great for washing toxins out of your body, and so is water. Put them together, and you have a super drink! I use lemon juice, but you could always slice a lemon and put that in your water as well.
- Put less sugar in your coffee or tea It’s quite simple. When you go to Dunkin’ don’t ask for seven sugars or “extra sugar” like I do, but instead, take it how it usually comes or with 2.
- Use almond milk instead of cream I did this the other day on a whim. Instead of putting cream in my coffee, I used organic almond milk from HEB. Almond milk contains heart-healthy fats and fewer calories than cream. Plus, it doesn’t taste different!
- Eat fruit for breakfast When I go to the dining hall for breakfast, they usually have grapes, melons, apples, bananas, and oranges. (Some days they even have strawberries!) I take a bowl and fill it with fruit, and that’s my breakfast! Sometimes I’ll also get some yogurt, and I always get water.
- Eat frozen yogurt instead of ice-cream Once again, lower in calories etc etc. Also tastes good.
- When you want to binge snack- make yourself eat healthy My little sister binge snacks on blueberries. I want to complain, but I’m glad it’s not on gross, fake food instead like my other little sister. When I watch Netflix, I’ll make myself a bowl of cut up strawberries, an apple, and a banana. This bowl fills me up, so for me it’s a great, healthy lunch.
- Get light buttered or sea salt popcorn To me, these kinds of popcorn actually taste better than normal popcorn. Way better, to be exact. This is the kind my dad buys.
- Drink a smoothie or a shake throughout the day to kill snack cravings How to subdue your snacking tendencies and be nutritious? Buy or make your own smoothie or shake! My roommate and I buy Shakeology from my mom and we drink it every day. We’re both happier and healthier! This is where we buy it. (This is not sponsored)
- Instead of playing on your phone when you’re bored, exercise Why scroll through the same old Facebook memes when you could be bettering your body and mind? Next time you want to waste time on your phone, try some new yoga poses or do a quick workout instead.
Those are my tips! Have a happy and healthy new year.
Why yoga? Well, simply put:
Yoga gives you physical health benefits:
- Strength throughout your whole body
- Better posture
- Drops your blood pressure
(If you want a complete list of the health benefits of yoga, check out this website!)
As well as mental health benefits:
- Tames the stress response (I for one know this definitely works)
- Improves your overall mood
- Soothes anxiety and depression
- Boosts memory and concentration
My Since I have started yoga I have had a grasp on my temper, mood swings, and impulsive behaviors as well as becoming more flexible. Whenever I sense that I am becoming irritated, I focus on my breathing. It is very soothing, making me calm down quickly so I can solve matters with a clear head. For me, working out promotes a healthy lifestyle, so I have been eating better and drinking more water as well. Yoga helps me relax (which I have a very hard time doing)
- It makes me more flexible (which I love)
- It gives me a whole body workout
- Its teachings help me as a person
At the end of my yoga routine I ease into savasana, or the corpse pose, and think about why I decided to do yoga and what I am grateful for in that moment. Sometimes I think about how I am grateful for my big, fluffy bed at home (ew, dorm beds!) and sometimes I think about way deeper things and reflect.
Yoga is very good for those of you that “cannot” relax- such as myself. Yoga will allow you to relax after you get into the steady rhythm and open your heart.