In the beginning of December I completed my first semester of college. It was unnecessarily dramatic, but also very productive! I’m going to share with you What I Learned To Do, What I Learned Not To Do, and What I Will be Doing Differently Next Semester.
What I Learned To Do:
- Experiment with different techniques of note taking, because (most likely) different classes will call for different kinds. For example, in Biology for Majors I found that it was most beneficial when I scribbled down all of my notes and rewrote them later. Contrarily, in U.S. History I needed to take very precise, short notes and listen more than I wrote.
- Take some time away from other people. Whether it is a few minutes, hours, days, or weeks; if you need that time, your friends will understand. It’s very stressful to constantly be around people- especially the same people over and over again. Sometimes you need to remove yourself and take some time to relax or do things on your own. It helps you stay sane.
- Use campus resources to your advantage. I don’t have a laptop. I used to borrow my boyfriend’s for assignments, but after a while I started to feel bad and would procrastinate so I didn’t have to borrow it again. All it did was stress both of us out. Theeennnnn… I visited this beautiful place called the computer lab, and all of my problems were solved! It’s free, I rarely have to wait, and I can stay there as long as I want. I mean, I was forced to pay the fee anyways, I might as well use it!
- Realize that not everybody sucks. There were a lot of bad people that entered my life this semester, but there were also a lot of good people. Sadly, I gave the bad people what they wanted- attention. Instead of paying attention to the people that were consistently nice to me, I was always focusing my energy towards the bad people. Find the people that are good to you and keep them around.
What I Learned Not To Do:
- Procrastinate! It only makes you more stressed than you already are.
- Get wrapped up in drama. I am going to try my hardest to not get into drama this next semester, because it’s pointless and all it does is drag me down. No, I really don’t care if Kelly’s bangs look stupid and I don’t care that Jessica and Rosaline are fighting.
- Share my opinion, mainly on politics. I have found that college kids are very into politics- I’d imagine because they’re of voting age and because of the upcoming election. I have also found that if you have a different opinion than somebody, 8/10 times that person is going to hate you and talk bad about you. It’s ridiculous, I know, but from now on I’m just going to keep my opinions to myself. Quietness > Screaming matches.
- Tell people about my personal life. I don’t think I really have to explain this one…
- Only call my mom when I need financial help. I don’t think I have to explain this one either…
- Hang out with people that I don’t like hanging out with because I feel obligated to. If you don’t like somebody, they make you feel bad, or whatever- you don’t have to give them the time of DAY.
- Hang out with the same people 24/7. Don’t get me wrong- it’s GREAT if you found someone that you absolutely love hanging out with- but you need to give each other some breathing room or you’ll end up getting extremely annoyed with each other (I’ve seen this happen a lot).
What I Will Be Doing Differently Next Semester:
- When somebody asks me something I don’t want to answer, don’t answer it! There are oodles of ways to nicely dismiss somebody’s question if you aren’t comfortable answering it. For example, “I don’t share my political views” and leave it at that.
- Not opening up to people right away. My tendency to open up to new friends right away really bit me in the butt this semester, and I don’t want it to happen again.
- Focus more on why I’m actually attending college- my education. Drama can wait. I need to study for my history final. My life, education, diploma, and future are more important than your pettiness.
Leave any comments, tips, ideas, questions, etc in the comment section! I would love to hear from you!