Health concerns are very scary. I would argue that they’re even scarier, or at least harder to cope with, when you have panic disorder.Continue reading “Fighting Health Panic”
It’s like I know what to do but I just can’t do it. It reminds me of Kylo Ren in Star Wars.
In my journey with crippling anxiety, I feel like I’ve seen it all; every tip, every trick. I refuse to mislead my readers by saying these are “new” techniques, but they are things that I haven’t taken seriously enough.
As cliche as it is, it’s 2020 and I’m sick of having this dark cloud and fear attached to me even when I’m supposed to be happy. These will hopefully become habitual for me.
My who, what, where, when, why, and how of studying.
When I came to college I was like, “Lol what’s a study?” But after seeing the consequences (not preforming to the best of my ability) I decided that it was time to learn how.
I guess it started my second semester and really clicked in my third.
I have to either be alone, or with someone who’s not completely annoying/distracting. I’m not going to name names or anything…
Bring somebody that will hold you accountable for fucking around and not actually doing anything. If I stop working for a while, my boyfriend usually gets on me about it.
I have to have literally everything I need or could possibly want, because if I end up needing/wanting something and don’t have it, that drives me nuts.
I also have to make sure that I’m comfortable, which usually means no makeup and an outfit that doesn’t make me cringe despite the cuteness. I always change from my contacts to my glasses as well, just in case my contacts dry out.
I realized that I have to be in an area conducive to studying for ME, not for someone else or a “normal” place like in my room.
Places I like studying
- A certain chair at work
- The far chair at the dining room table at my mom’s house
- A particular chair at the kitchen table at my dad’s house
See how they’re kind of random? It’s because I started paying attention to where I was able to retain the most information and focus the best.
I have to be awake–like really awake.
When I like to study
- 9/10 in the morning (if I’ve been awake and I’m in my room)
- 6:30-8:00 PM (if I’m at Starbucks)
As you can see, being okay with my pickiness allows me to successfully study.
I have to have some sort of motivation, so I usually try to make myself really believe that I REALLY need to study. I’ll look at things I know I don’t understand, or say out loud in some kind of way that I have no clue what I’m doing.
It also helps me to be really blunt with myself, so keeping a note in sight about why I need to focus and study helps me as well.
I go to the right place at the right time and knock everything out that I can. I can’t just “study” at look at terms or something; it needs to be a task. So doing Quizlet tests or filling out a practice sheet help me. Watching interactive videos that I already know I like (Crash Course) helps me if I need someone to explain it to me.
I also have to give myself breaks whenever I feel burnt-out or I’ve done a lot. This one takes a lot of willpower to not get carried away with, but it helps a lot.
This photo is not mine. It is from Florida Tech.
Uh-oh. School is starting again. Props to to the excited ones *rolls eyes*.
I’m sort of kidding, I am excited, but there’s some weirdness going on with my classes so I’m not holding my breath.
Anyways, I was just about to pack my bag for tomorrow and figured I should write a blog post about what to bring to your first day of classes!
You: “Sh*t. My final is in days. What the heck do I do, Jaedyn?!”
Me: “I gotchu fam.”
I’s simple- online.
Wait, wait, don’t exit. This post isn’t sponsored, and it isn’t a scam. I actively use everything I’m about to recommend and I extensively researched all of them before I used them. I’m 16 and paying for college by myself (and don’t have a car), so I need to be SUPER creative when it comes to making cash. I get paid via PayPal (direct deposit) and not in gift cards (I hate the gift card thing tbh). Couch + phone >>>>> Uniform + burgers. I’m going to explain what each one is and what I do to earn money on each of them.Continue reading “No Job in the Summer, but I’m Making Bank. How?”
This is a repost of my Odyssey article, which you can see here! (Please look because I get paid based on views, lol)
Something I learned: People are not who they seem to be- especially when you are a scared, little freshman.
This year I got pushed around and trampled all over by people who I thought were my friends. My biggest mistake was trusting people who I barely knew just because I was in a new environment and wanted to fit in.
At the beginning of the year the girls on my floor hosted “girls’ nights” and we all gathered around and did what girls do best- gossiped. We all gossiped about ourselves, because we had nothing to say about the people we didn’t know yet. Gossiping about yourself is so much worse than gossiping about other people. Girls Night turned into “never have I ever” and “tell me your life story”. The next day it was, “She’s a slut,” and, “Wow, I hate her,” and the cliques were formed; all because of things that we confessed to people whojust wanted gossip.
I got caught up in fake, dramatic people’s trouble all year and let it run my life instead of focusing on what I was really in college for- academics.
Something I learned: You do not have to settle for people you don’t want to be friends with just to have someone to hang out with.
How to Spot These People in Conversations (and what to say back)
1. They straight off the bat ask your opinion about people.
You know- “Heyyyy… So what do you think about Shelia? She’s kind of mean, huh?”
Say, “I don’t know her that well, so I don’t have an opinion on her.” If you say anything even remotelynegative, they will tell people.
2. They talk about people who you thought were their friends.
“You will not believe what -enter “best friend”‘s name- did last night.”
Most likely that best friend didn’t want anybody to know. So, what you say is, “I don’t think that is any of my business, and ‘m sure she wouldn’t want other people to know either.”
3. They’re always “here for you”- but only when you’re upset.
*Pats your back* “Oh, honey, it’s okay, I’m here for you.” *Posts dirt on Twitter to start more drama*.
Do not give them the details, and kindly tell them that you will be okay and just need some alone time.
4. They randomly get mad at you and make a big deal out of it.
For example, you think everything is fine and dandy until they randomly block you on everything and say passive aggressive things about you. This one happened to me a lot this year.
With this one you have options based on what you seem fit. What I usually do is talk to them directly about it so there is no telephone game style confusion. Plus, by asking other people what her problem is, drama spreads more.
5. Also, I have noticed that these types of people in college do not really care about academics, and are more focused on their friend group.
How to Protect Yourself in These Situations:
1. Do not talk about your personal life to people who are really still strangers (less than 3-4 months of friendship)
2. Make it seem like you’re always doing fine; don’t talk about the problems you’re having.
3. Try to distance yourself socially and mentally from people you do not know or like (Side note: by all means, be social, but not with people who display the character traits listed above)
4. Do not feed into drama. This means: don’t respond to salty Twitter posts, turn the other cheek, don’t talk about anyone in any way, and focus on yourself.
My boyfriend says something sad (but true) about me and the people I befriend; I have a “2 month rule”. After 2 months I get rid of my new friends or we have a big fight and end up hating each other. Honestly, it’s true. My problem is that I trust these random people and hope that their heart is as good as mine- which rarely happens. In the rare circumstance that I find one of these people, we are friends for longer than 2 months. My best friends and I have been friends all freshman year, because we did not immediately trust one another and talk about each other behind our backs. Find people that you truly get along with and like, and make them your friends. I wish I had been friendless for a few months rather than having 8 different close friends in a few months.
Take home message: Do not divulge your personal life into people you just met. Wait until you have been friends with them at least for more than two months. You don’t need to make your life harder with unnecessary drama.
I work 17 hours a week and go to college for 15 credit hours this semester. I also have to do hours of homework, food shopping, sleep, clean, and make time for my friends and boyfriend. I’m a very busy young lady.
The concept of relaxing never really hit me until very recently. I don’t like to relax. I don’t want to relax. I could be doing “better things with my time- more productive things…” But honey, taking care of you and your mental/emotional/physical well-being is productive. You must take care of yourself before anything else. And once I start relaxing, I feel way better.
With my newfound desire for relaxation, I decided to share a list of how I relax with you all.
How Jaedyn Relaxes
- I’ll get lost in a book
- I take a warm bath with bubbles and Epsom salts
- I have a girls night where we order pizza and watch a movie
- If I really need it, I’ll take a nap between classes
- I say “no” to things that A. Will overwhelm me B. Make my schedule way to packed C. Don’t pertain to me
- I make time for yoga to focus on mindful breathing. It really helps during the day when you get overwhelmed.
- Talk a walk for pleasure not with an objective in mind (i.e. walking to the dining hall to get lunch doesn’t count)
- Sometimes I’ll literally just sit down, close my eyes, and practice the mindful breathing mentioned before
- If there’s an app I really like, I’ll play it when I’m stressed and need to get my mind off my something. I’m currently playing Neko Atsume (Kitty Collector)
- I will hug/ cuddle someone. I saw my good friend Amanda one day and walked up to her and hugged her. I’ll cuddle my boyfriend all the time. You know why? Because it’s sooooo cathardic.
- Sometimes my siblings will rub my feet for a fee, but it’s worth it, especially if you live on a college campus and you’re constantly walking around.
- Watch Netflix or TV
Alright, those are some ways I relax! As people comment, I’ll add on to the post so it can become extremely helpful!